Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Teamwork & Marriage

After a conversation with my cousin (well, I had actually pulled up the site to write a blog about this topic already) I was telling her the importance of some aspects of marriage.
I asked her about her boyfriend of the past year or so, probably the "or so". I had been of the mindset that he wasn't good enough for her. Some might say that I will feel that way about every guy, but I sincerely won't. I asked her if this guy valued her.
Because ultimately if someone doesn't value you then there will be a breakdown of either her self-esteem/beliefs/values, or they will break up because she will see her worth, or he will realize she won't take well to her de-valuation.
Hubs and I have gone through a horribly bad week. Less than a week, but it feels forever long already. He lost his job Friday night. A job he absolutely loved. A job we had sacrificed for. He had wonderful coworkers that have blessed us abundantly in the past few days. To say it was a shock would be putting it mildly. I knew it was going to hurt him, and that hurt me, because I truly love him. The past few days have been amazing though. This is literally one of the worst situations of our marriage so far. He is the sole breadwinner, I am 6 months pregnant, and we have a little boy. I could go on with all of the reasons this is bad, really really bad, but that was never the reason I started this post. I wanted to write it because I am amazed at how God has blessed our marriage in the past few days. We are in complete unity on decisions and actions. We are both shouldering the load, and even though it is a heavy one, it feels good to be shouldering it with him. We are a team, we do this together.
Not only did I ask my cousin today about her value in the eyes of this boy I also asked her if she wanted to share life with this kid. (note, I use the words boy and kid, not guy or man) Would he be the one she would want to shoulder the load with? Would he be the one she wanted to try to raise a family with? There are so many important questions when it comes down to who you will choose to be your spouse. With all of this being said, I know my husband's faults and they are many (as are my own), he is definitely imperfect. Yes, sometimes he drives me crazy, and I have been know to have the desire to throw him out of a moving car before (check "yes" under crazy pregnancy hormones here). Ultimately though, I said "I do" and he did too.
I have mentioned to you my love of country music. Lady Antebellum is one of my favorite bands. They have a song entitled "I Run To You". I have loved this song from the first time I heard it because it so perfectly describes something people forget about marriage. It is important to run to your spouse. In good times and bad. When you try to fill the parts of you in need with other things or people you are in a bit o' trouble. Girlfriends have an important place, but there are things in a marriage that must be held sacred, and communication is one of them. So here are the lyrics and a video. God Bless!
I run my life
Or is it running me?
Run from my past
I run too fast
Or too slow it seems
When lies become the truth
That's when I run to you
This world keeps spinning faster
To a new disaster, so I run to you
I run to you, Baby
When it all starts coming undone
Baby, you're the only one I run to
I run to you
We run on fumes
Your life and mine
Like the sands of time
Slippin' right on through
Our love's the only truth
That's why I run to you

Friday, January 8, 2010

Naming our Children

I have always been one that believes that naming children means more than just calling them something, but must be backed with meaning. When I was diagnosed at 17 with PCOS I was told I would never have children without medical intervention. The summer after that I went to go work in a remote village in the rainforest of Honduras. It was a very short term trip, about two weeks. When I was there God told me I would have a son, and that I was supposed to name him Jeremiah. Later I looked up the meaning of that name. It has been defined as either "God will Uplift" or "The Lord Exalts".

I went on with my life for several(5) years before I met and married my husband. During that time I wasn't totally believing that I would have children, and informed him before we ever really started dating that it might not be an option. I knew I liked him when he told me he didn't care! He pointed out that adoption was always an option and we would just wait and see what God had for us. Shockingly, 4 months after getting married we found out I was pregnant. Those next few months passed in a blur, and our son was born right before our one year anniversary. I remember (in my head) singing the song "Great is They Faithfulness" at his birth (via emergency c-section). I will leave you with those lyrics:
Great is Thy faithfulness
O God, my Father
There is no shadow of turning with Thee
Thou changest not
Thy compassions they fail not
As Thou hast been,
Thou forever wilt be.
Great is Thy faithfulness
Great is Thy faithfulness
Morning by morning,
New mercies I see
All I have needed
Thy hand has provided
Great is Thy faithfulness
Lord unto me
Summer and winter, springtime and harvest
Sun, moon, and stars in their courses above
Join with all nature in manifold witness
To Thy great faithfulness, mercy and love.
Great is Thy faithfulness
Great is Thy faithfulness
Morning by morning,
New mercies I see
All I have needed
Thy hand has provided
Great is Thy faithfulness
Lord unto me